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A prayer for marriage

By on March 30, 2018

Recently, at our friend’s wedding, I was touched by the prayer their pastor prayed over them during the ceremony.

The prayer was originally given by Dietrich Bonhoeffer, a German Lutheran pastor who lived during World War II. Although once a pacifist, he participated in a plot to assassinate Hitler. He wrote this prayer for the last wedding he performed before he was arrested and placed in a Nazi concentration camp. He was executed two weeks before U.S. soldiers liberated the camp.

It’s amazing to me how even though times change, the trials and joys of marriage are largely the same. If we trust God to guide us through each day together, our marriages will no doubt be blessed.

O God of love, you have established marriage for our welfare and happiness. You had the design and the plan, and only with you can we work it out in joy.

Bless this husband, may his strength be her protection, his character be her boast and her pride, and may he so live that she will find in him the haven for which her heart longs.

Bless this wife; give her a tenderness that will make her great, a deep sense of understanding, and a great faith in you.  Continue to develop in her that inner beauty of soul that never fades.

Teach them that marriage is not living merely for each other; it is two uniting and joining hands to serve you.  Give them a spiritual purpose in life.  Help them to seek first your kingdom and your righteousness.

May they not expect that perfection of each other that belongs alone to you.  May they minimize each other’s weaknesses, and see each other through a lover’s kind and patient eyes.

Give them such assignments in your plan for them that will bless them and develop their character as they walk together.  Give them enough tears to keep them tender, enough hurt to keep them humane, enough of failure to keep their hands clenched tightly in yours, and enough success to make them sure they are walking in your footsteps.

May they never take each other’s love for granted but always experience that breathless wonder that exclaims, “Out of all this world God has given you to me.”

And when they come to the end of their days, may they be found then as now, hand in hand and still thanking that for each other.  May they serve you happily, faithfully and together until at last one shall lay the other into your arms. This is our prayer in the name of him who loved us and gave himself for us, Jesus Christ our Lord.  AMEN. ✨

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peace be still

By on February 18, 2018


Heavenly Father,

I long for you. I long for the days you have promised us. Days free from fear, suffering, and pain. Free from shame, bitterness, and hatred.

I praise You, because I know You hold it all in your hands. No matter how big the waves, how dark the valley, You are with us every step.

You constantly pursue us, no matter how far we stray. Your unconditional love is overwhelming, and life changing. We deserve nothing, yet You give us everything.

As a country we have become self seeking, and self serving. We lack compassion for those who need it most. We pour our time, money, and energy into things that will never satisfy. Our ever dwindling attention spans keep us in a constant state of anxiety. Forgive us for being disobedient, and complacent. Let us remember your command to be STILL, and know that YOU alone are God.

Give us the discipline and strength we need to become the people You made us to be. Let your love and grace spill out of our hearts, and touch everyone around us.

Let us love the unlovable, and connect with people that look, think, and act nothing like us. Break our hearts, for what breaks Yours. Your perfect love is truly the only answer to heal our nation.

God, I pray that your presence is surrounding every mourning heart. I cannot imagine the pain, anger, and disbelief these families must be experiencing. I pray that you will strengthen their faith, and give them peace that surpasses all understanding.

Give the leaders of our country wisdom to navigate necessary changes in legislation. But more important than legislation, God, change the condition of every heart in this country. Give us compassion, and courage to walk alongside those fighting mental illness. Let us reach out to the lonely, and break down walls of isolation.

I know you are able. You are all powerful, and always good.

Strengthen our faith, Father. Banish our doubt. Let our hearts believe.





“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” Psalm 34:18

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4

“My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life.” Psalm 119:50



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By on June 23, 2017

The Beginning


When Ash Wednesday rolled around this year, I knew what I had to give up. My Facebook app.

The convenience of the app on my phone made it so easy for me to mindlessly scroll through pictures, opinions, cat videos, recipes, makeup tutorials… you get the picture. It was a total time-suck for me.

Since 2006, I have somehow accumulated 1146 friends… love y’all but those political opinions, personal diary entires, and word vomit really started getting to me.

So on March 1, 2017, I clicked that little x on the Facebook app on my phone. When Easter rolled around, I was glad to be rid of it, and didn’t feel the need to download it again. I still check in on my computer every now and then, but for some reason scrolling on a laptop isn’t near as fun as the phone. Obviously Facebook is not the evil here, it’s my laziness!

I have talked about having a blog for years, but never had the drive to actually make it come to fruition. I have struggled with anxiety all my life, and always let the fear of what other people might think or say hold me back.

After being baptized one year ago,  I can truly feel God working on my heart to recognize what my true identity is- His child. I don’t have to worry about what people may think, because His opinion of me is all that matters.

And so this blog is born-

The Graham Scheme of Things

It’s a reminder to myself and to all who read it, to keep everything in perspective. To not sweat the small stuff. To not let anything dull your shine. To stay soft in a harsh world. To cherish each day, each person in your life, every conversation, every opportunity, ordinary or extraordinary. To “set your minds on things above” (Colossians 3: 2) Because in the grand scheme of things, we are responsible for the way we use our time on earth.  Basically- YOLO. Not in a reckless way, but in a mindful way.

I’m interested in everything, and an expert of nothing. So this blog is going to be a hodge podge of all the things. 

  • Fitness/ Health/ Healthy Recipes
  • Faith
  • Oral Health (y’all know I can’t leave that out)
  • Chronicling our 1980’s home remodel
  • Travels
  • Throwbacks
  • Texas everything
  • Lifestyle (wth does that even mean? miscellaneous i guess)

So that’s it. I’m gonna do my best. I don’t really even know what the internet is, so this is going to interesting to say the least. Love y’all. Mean it.

Hailee Graham


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